My sweet lil’ baby, Keelan, is going through a hard time right now. She has recently broken up with her boyfriend and, while that is always a difficult time in a girl’s life, it has been exacerbated by a stalker. This 23 year old guy started working at Sonic with Keelan about a month ago and almost immediately attached himself to her side. The other employees went so far as to refer to him as her “Shadow”, and I believe that’s where the nickname, “Clinger” was first applied.
She was dating her long time boyfriend at the time, but this didn’t stop our Clinger. He repeatedly asked her out, swore his undying love and would NOT stop following her.
He followed her to Payless Shoes where she and Kessa were shopping one day. Freaked her out and her sister, too.
He told her he wanted to have children with her!
He went from charming and sweet to obnoxious, freaky, and downright scary in a matter of days. As a matter of fact, the first few days he worked with her.
I am happy to report that her breakup was not caused by this joker. However, when her feelings were still raw and hurt after she and her boyfriend parted ways, Clinger got mad at Keelan for her constant rejection, (she says recoiling), and he told her he was going to go to the ex-boyfriends workplace and tell him that Keelan and he had slept together just so there was no chance things would ever work out with them.
Clearly, this young man is disturbed.
After Keelan had been refusing his advances for about three weeks he started being really rude to her at work. Her boss, the owner, arranged the schedules so that they weren’t working together. However, that was to start next work week.
Saturday, March 5th, Clinger convinced Keelan that he HAD to talk to her about something “super important, and work related”. There had been no agreement with her boss about separating their work schedules yet so she was pretty sure he was going to tell her that he was taking over her friend’s morning shifts and would be spending every morning, ALL morning with her.
This was a tragic consideration of epic proportions. Think “major angst”.
Since Kee refused to go with him in his car, (I mean…REALLY?!), they were to meet at Starbuck’s…
The first thing to piss him off was the fact that Keelan brought a friend with her. (My girl’s no dummy and has survival instincts.)
Then, when the conversation didn’t revolve entirely around him, and his plan to woo Kee fell apart, things went south. He made numerous nasty remarks to Kee and her friend and ended up telling Kee that he would be telling her things that would depress her so badly that she would kill herself. Actually told her she would end up ,”blowing her brains out”.
She was a bit… agog. However, she had the presence of mind to tell him that there really is nothing he could possibly say to her that would cause this effect.
His parting words, as Kee and friend were dashing out to the car? “Tell (ex-boyfriend), I said, ‘Hi!'”.
Sunday, March 6th, Clinger got to work and his shift overlapped Kee’s by two hours. So, she’s thinking, “I can do this… just two hours and I am outta here”.
He was hateful, demeaning, obnoxious, and downright scary every chance he got. Many of the employees witnessed it again.
So Keelan got through and left work later that day. Then, the manager on duty called her and said that Clinger had just gotten up and left work with close to $400.00 dollars of Sonic’s money and hadn’t even bothered to clock out.
The thinking at this point is that maybe he had forgotten to turn it in before he left. I mean it was a possibility, though not very probable.
The manager finally got in touch with Clinger and there was, reportedly, a screaming conversation between them in which Clinger insists that the manager and Keelan conspired against him together to make it look like he had stolen the money.
Keelan wasn’t even THERE. The manager has worked there for five years or so and has always seemed to be an outstanding person.
The owner is pressing charges against Clinger and we don’t know if the cops have found him yet. Or even if the address on his employment application is correct or not.
If Keelan hears from this guy again, phone call, text, or, (heaven forbid), in person, we will get a restraining order.
My doors are locked at all times. And I am not usually a paranoid person. I MEAN, AT ALL!
I know I am continuing the Texan stereotype by saying this, but I’m glad we have guns.
Yes. I said it.
Heh. NOW, can I get some hate mail and consider myself a “real” blogger?
To be continued….
Comment by Mr. Corvette on March 10, 2011 at 5:47 pm
Get the restraining order immediately whether he can be found or not. Also file police reports separately concerning all his actions to establish a record of his actions. If he comes back to work, tell Sonic you will sue them for sexual harassment if he is not immediately terminated. (This should have been reported to Sonic upper management a long time ago, but you and your daughter are both too nice.) Since he has actually threatened bodily harm, you should also go to a Justice of the Peace and get a “Peace Bond” If they can find him, he will have to post a sizable bond (like $5,000) and then if there is any further threat or action, he will forfeit the bond. Then the bonding company will be after his ass. Since he has threatened the former boyfriend in front of witnesses, he should also get a restraining order and peace bond. This may sound drastic, but you need to let this guy know if he does not leave her alone, he will be in a world of hurt.
Comment by Kristen Clark on March 10, 2011 at 6:06 pm
Oh buddy he was fired alright! The day he took the money! Buddy boy is banned from Sonic and there is a case against him.
Comment by Krissa on March 10, 2011 at 6:13 pm
Oh, yes indeed he is fired and her bosses are aware of everything that is going on.
I’m not too sure the ex-boyfriend could get a peace bond since he didn’t really threaten him. However, you are right about Kee getting a restraining order. He said enough ugly things to her that it is more than in order.
Comment by Krissa on March 10, 2011 at 6:14 pm
I hope they find him, Kristen!
Comment by Red Hamster on March 10, 2011 at 10:22 pm
Oh dear, that Clinger is seriously disturbed. I’m not sure Keelan should continue to work at Sonic, since Clinger knows to look for her there.
I agree with Mr. Corvette, take all the actions you need to take. Call the cops if you even see Clinger anywhere in your vicinity.
I’m glad you have guns, too. Sorry to disappoint your hope for some hate mail, but I’m eventually moving to Texas, remember?
Keep us posted. You and your family take care.
Comment by Kori on March 11, 2011 at 9:45 am
Oh, no, not gilly! What happened? Poor, poor girl. All the way around. That stalker guy is scary-but you have a smart girl there.
Comment by Krissa on March 11, 2011 at 11:48 am
Oh, no! Not Gilly! He is Kessa’s longtime boyfriend. (SIX YEARS) This was Keelan’s boyfriend. And he turned out to be a bit of a jerk. Mostly because they are broken up and he doesn’t seem to be through messing with her heart.
Oh well- young love.
Now if we can just get completely rid of this new threat…
Comment by Krissa on March 11, 2011 at 11:51 am
Oh, he’s fired from Sonic. And we are being extremely careful, but he knows where she lives, too.
I think she’ll get a restraining order at this point, though.
Comment by Semi-Slacker Mom on March 11, 2011 at 7:04 pm
That is crazy. Somebody needs to jack this boy up. I agree take every legal matter needed & keep the guns LOADED.
Comment by Krissa on March 11, 2011 at 8:08 pm
Ooooh, shit I agree! He better not let me ever see him again.
Keelan has agreed to talk to a Sheriff’s Department person she knows about getting a restraining order.
Now… if I could only fix her heart.
Comment by april on March 13, 2011 at 11:53 am
and I’m glad you have a gun too.
Comment by Krissa on March 13, 2011 at 1:19 pm
Comment by tattytiara on March 13, 2011 at 9:02 pm
If the manager was aware enough of the situation to be switching their shifts, that creep definitely should have been fired long before he took the money. Kee had the other employees and her friend to witness his behavior, and his behavior was in no way shape or form ok.
Comment by John on March 13, 2011 at 11:28 pm
I agree completely! Unfortunately, there is a very immature atmosphere at that place. The sooner she gets outta there the better. I wish she would hurry up and get over this boy and take her pharmacy tech license test. IT’S TIME TO MOVE ON OUT OF THAT PLACE!
Comment by Dana on March 16, 2011 at 8:53 pm
Oh Krissa, this situation is very scary….So sorry she and ya’ll as a family are going through this. Hopefully, by now he’s been caught and the proper charges and restraints have been filed against him!
Comment by joanna jenkins on March 18, 2011 at 9:44 pm
I strongly suggest getting the restraining order as well and going on the record with the police. Do you know Vodka Mom? She went through this with her daughter last year. Scary stuff.
So sorry this is happening. Hugs to you and your daughter. Stay strong and be sure she travels in a group.
Ugh. xo jj
Comment by Krissa on March 19, 2011 at 9:25 am
Thanks, Joanna! We’re waiting to hear if the police have picked him up yet. No one has seen or heard from him again…yet. I talked to Keelan about filing a restraining order and I think she’s going to do just that.
Comment by Krissa on March 19, 2011 at 9:27 am
Dana, we STILL haven’t heard that for sure he’s been picked up! No one knows anything about him anymore. Maybe he crawled back under the rock he came from… 😉
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