Comments on: I said I’d post again within a week and SEE, I DID.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 14:38:12 +0000

ok ok I am finally leaving a freakin comment…..
I would wait and see if she tries to contact you thru his FB
she probably is feeling guilty for the way she treated you.
Because of things that happened to me in my life I was a VERY VERY ANGRY child, I was very mean and cruel to several people, and now I do feel really bad about it. I am not that person anymore, and sometimes I want those people to know that and say I sorry for the way I treated them, but at that time that was all I had inside of me was anger. I want to tell them it wasn’t anything they did it was ME.

By: big hair envy

big hair envy — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 15:39:43 +0000

I’m going to go against the general consensus here. I attended a very small high school, and there was plenty of “hating” going on. Kids being kids. I have enjoyed reconnecting with my high school friends. We are all adults now, and some of the girls I thought were real witches are actually amazing women. I feel closer to most of these folks than I ever did in high school.

Having said that, I have not walked in your shoes, and cannot imagine what you went through. Give it some time, and do what’s right for you. If you can get the “demons” out, you won’t continue to carry them with you the rest of your life. Sometimes, all it takes is a good cry:)

I received a wonderful little package in the mail yesterday. I LOVE it!!! Check my post tomorrow:)
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By: Ree

Ree — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 18:46:18 +0000

You know exactly what I would do Bury my head in the sand and never, ever look up again.

But that’s me.
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By: Roger

Roger — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 15:59:49 +0000

I would do exactly what you did/are doing. High School is bad enough as it is, why would you want to relive it again, especially since you are so beyond and past all that crap. Let her make the call first. If she really wants to talk to you, then she will. You have moved on, and are obviously still bothered by it after all these years. Let her call, and if wsome of the first few words from her aren’t “I’m sorry” then excuse yourself from the phone call and move on.

My two cents.
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By: Kori

Kori — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 16:37:47 +0000

I am on FB but deliberately set it to Private because I have absolutely no desire in the world to re-connect with anyone I went to high school. Plus I spent like three days on FB and now I am SO over the whole thing, really.

But since this isn’t about me ( ha), if it were ME, these are the questions I would ask myself: 1. What would my motivation be for calling this person? 2. What am I hoping/expecting for by talking with this person? 3. Is reconnecting with this person going to enhance my daily life in any appreciable way? Than, based on your honest answers to those questions, you can make a decision.

There is my two cents.
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By: noe noe girl

noe noe girl — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 13:40:22 +0000

I’m not a big fan of facebook. I have friended some folks but mostly I just read their comments. I am not sure what I would do chickie!

By: Karen

Karen — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 03:19:02 +0000

I, personally, think it was the guy’s way of politely saying the politically correct thing. If she wants to reach out, she will. She is probably feeling shame for her actions and is embarrassed to reach out, so if you do first it might help. And if you’d rather not, you’ve managed to live just fine after all these years without her.
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By: grandma j

grandma j — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 22:07:41 +0000

Oh Krissa, what a story! I can’t imagine being mean like that, even though I was no angel.

I’m weird about facebook. My kids are friending all kinds of old friends and neighbors, and I just can’t get into it.

I have to read more of your post to find out how your hubby is doing…..hopefully much better
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By: Hyphen Mama

Hyphen Mama — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 20:23:51 +0000

Wow– I know this seems so callous, but if they couldn’t be there for you when you needed them, do you need them now? I can totally understand them not knowing how to act around you, not knowing what to say or do… but blatant cruelty? Yes, they were 15, and that’s not when we are our most mature and rational. Do you have priceless friendships now that you don’t have a void to fill? Or are you looking to see if the old friends would come clean with apologies?

If it were me, I’d wait it out and see if she contacts you via his facebook account.
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By: Eric | Eden Journal

Eric | Eden Journal — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 17:33:53 +0000

It’s a little sad that it takes a great tragedy or a great need before finding out who your real friends are. It makes me wonder how some of my friends would have reacted.

I no longer associate with most of the friends I had in high school. Nothing personal in most cases, but I just find myself moving in new directions, and I end up establishing new friendships. Kind of like when you change jobs. You see those folks every day, and may consider some of them friends, but then you leave that job for another job, and find that you don’t stay in touch like you thought you might.

This planet is a big place with a lot of people on it. You’re better off finding new, like minded individuals to spend time with. I have “friended” a lot of people on facebook, but my real friends are the ones I spend time with in real life.
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