Ok the latest debate/gossip around the coffee pot with the girlfriends and I is a touchy little question that has come up in one of our lives. I will not say who. Persecute Protect the innocent. Yeah. That’s what I’m all about. heh
Please chime in and leave your honest opinion, even if you have never commented before, PLEASE leave one this time. (I am trying to make you feel as if you owe me this. Is it working?) This whole debate really needs settling before any of us will just BE ABLE TO CHANGE THE DAMN SUBJECT ALREADY! Oops… was I shouting? I don’t want to scare you away, dear. Now just sit back down and relax. There, comfy? Good, now turn the phone off and pay close attention.
Here is question # 1 for expert consideration:
When a person of one sex text’s another person of the other sex every night and says, “I’m going to bed now. Good night. Sweet dreams.”, is that considered “pillow talk” or just being friendly?
Question # 2 is this:
When the person receiving the texts is a happily married individual, and of course the person doing the texting is not the spouse, is it inappropriate?
OK, ready? GO!
Comment by Roger on February 20, 2009 at 4:28 pm
Ooh, methinks somebody might be in trouble – at least in my household they would be. 🙂
Then again, #1 sounds like they are just being friendly, although I can’t honestly say that I have been on either end of that conversation.
#2 Always inappropriate, especially if subject A is indeed happily married, because why would subject B even think of sending such a message.
That being said Good night and sweet dreams! 🙂 Oh wait, I mean enjoy Jeapordy! And I think I hear H calling.
Not really trying to sound flippant, it’s just the way I am. Like Rex from Toy Story “I don’t like confrontation!”
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Comment by Jean M. on February 20, 2009 at 4:39 pm
I’m thinking some kind of pillow talk for sure. My hubs would be completely furious if some dude was texting me good night. So the second would be inappropriate. I think. I’m sure it’s meant to be all well and good but I think I would be uncomfortable getting that kind of text. Though I’m not a texter so what do I know. Every person I follow on twitter is a girl, so I don’t think I have to worry about that.
I’m gonna ask the hubs his opinion just for fun.
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Comment by Mither on February 20, 2009 at 4:39 pm
All right now! Who is texting you? Who would say that? Does John know? I refuse to tolerate this so tell that other sex person to leave you alone!!
Comment by witchypoo on February 20, 2009 at 4:39 pm
#! depends on the sexual preference of the texter and the textee
#2 see #1
But if my husband was being texted by a woman, I would so be in her face. And he would not be in my pants, because, frankly, there is only room for one asshole in my pants.
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Comment by Kori on February 20, 2009 at 6:16 pm
This is a sore spot for me, so as far as I am willing to go here on your space is that it is totally inappropriate for either party-the texter and the textee. There is such a sentence as “If you call/text/email me again, I wll report you for harassment and then I wll turn my wife on you, you cheap streetwalking slut.” Or something along those lines. Just sayin’.
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Comment by witchypoo on February 20, 2009 at 6:37 pm
I haven’t shamed you with my shameless comment, have I?
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Comment by Serendipitous Girl on February 20, 2009 at 9:09 pm
Ooooh! SSG has a lot of friends who are guys–gay, straight, married, single and she has NEVER sent any of them a text message like that. Once! Let alone EVERY NIGHT?! Good LAWD, someone is in trouble.
(Ok, SSG might have lied a little. She and Predo exchange naughty text messages all the time, but somehow SSG doesn’t think she’s any competition for JIMMY.)
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Comment by Lisa on February 21, 2009 at 8:25 am
I agree with Mither…..stop accepting those messages immediately…..or stop sending them….whichever it is u r doing!!!!! LOL
I think it is all wrong. I agree with witchypoo and kori, that would not go over well in my married house, not for me or my husband. A line has been crossed!
Now…..it’s actually Mither who is getting these texts…..right???? or is Mither sending them………YOU CAN TELL US….WE WILL NOT TELL ANYBODY……..WE PROMISE…….
Comment by Lisa on February 21, 2009 at 8:26 am
Dad, I know you are out there……tell us all what you think…….
Comment by Ree on February 21, 2009 at 11:12 am
#1 – How do these people know each other? Are they co-workers? Next door neighbors? Best friends since Kindergarten? To me, any relationship except the “best friends since kindergarten” makes this a very suspicious occurrence.
#2 – Yes.
Now, you must tell me. WHO?????
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Comment by Melissa on February 21, 2009 at 3:31 pm
Is it the bed ridden mother who is wishing her child a pleasant night? If not I would have to say someone is sleeping with the dogs.
Comment by halfassaunt on February 21, 2009 at 6:15 pm
It is very appropriate, if, it is the same case as happens at my house everynight.. I get a message, however it is usually by phone, from a male admirer, and I am of course of the female variety.. He tells me, “I love you, and have a good night and happy dreams”. I really appreciate it, of course it comes from my 9 year old grandson. Any other case, I would not be happy about me thinks!!! Whatever is going on at your place??????
Comment by Mr. Corvette on February 23, 2009 at 8:05 pm
It all depends. (Hey, I’m a lawyer, OK?) If the sender is a gay male trying to act like “one of the girls” it might be OK. However, just as in sexual harassment cases, it mostly depends on what the recipient thinks. I think it would be OK under two conditions. (1) She is not offended; and, (2) she would not hesitiate to tell her spouse about it. Otherwise, out of bounds.
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